My mirror self

I heard a reporter on TV recently use the phrase “war on cancer” and it gave me pause.

Have you ever noticed that we humans tend to “fight” issues, people, illness, just about anything that falls in our paths rather than loving it into something different?  Do you do that?  I know I do from time to time. 

 We seem to wage war with so many things in this life.  Another word for war is resistance which brings a well known phrase to mind:  What we resist, persists.

It all boils down to this:  what we put the most energy into is what we draw to ourselves.  It is a fundamental truth principle that this is true, and yet, it is one of the most challenging lessons that we all face at one time or another. 

 It’s also part of forgiveness. 

Why do we find it so hard to forgive?  Has someone hurt you or betrayed you or neglected you?  Why is it so hard for us to release those feelings?  Who is really being hurt when we don’t?

  Look in the mirror.  The image you see is responsible for how you feel, no one else. 

 Yet, we resist taking responsibility for our own feelings and throw the blame on others.  We create the illusion that we are helpless victims when we are, in fact, the perpetrator of the conflict that exists within our hearts and minds.

  Like good little puppies we keep chewing on that bone of discontent, and the more we gnaw on it, the more we feel justified in doing so and the more we want to continue it because it validates where we are in our lives. 

  We remain resistant to change and, as we know:  what we resist, persists.  But where is the good in that??  Where is the good in waging a war against ourselves?

Wars are waged country vs. country.  Political entities wage war amongst themselves.  It happens all the time and everywhere.  Take a look at Congress.  Take a look at any organization in which a diversity of factions exists.  Until or unless those involved in these “wars” releases the need to blame and accepts responsibility for their part in whatever issue exists—in other words stops resisting—the situation will persist. 

  This is also true concerning our health.

 Why wage war against cancer for instance?  Why not embrace the path to a cure?  Why wage war against yourself because you fall short of what you think you should do or be?  Why not forgive yourself for having missed the mark, learn from your mistake and move on?  Why not embrace every bit of yourself and move on with gratitude?

 

This whole concept is the domino theory in action.  If we can’t forgive ourselves, how can we ever think about forgiving others?

If we can’t love ourselves, how can we ever think about loving others?  If we can’t embrace life rather than war through life, how can we ever expect to create a peaceful and loving world?

 . . . just something to think about.

Namaste.

 --Kate Morgan for Unity of Charlotte